pain.
it’s a good thing.
torturous as it may seem,
you need it.
you need it
as much as you need happiness.
you need it
to even know what happiness is.
next time you get hurt,
know that it’s okay.
it’s okay to shed some sadness.
but,
never let this moment
destroy the next.
never destroy the path to life,
never destroy yourself
for
pain.
Take care
From the not so-
HeyLo,
If I had a dollar for every time someone thought I was giving a damn about what they said, I would probably stroll at Disneyland every single day.
Over the years, I’ve learnt that worrying and getting to anxious about what other people think will only leave you withered. See, there is a vast difference between caring about people and caring about people’s opinion.
We live in a society where democracy runs as free as water (unless you live in Tamil Nadu, like I do). Every step you take will be measured and judged by the onlookers. They are going to whisper about your success and your failure. Laugh at your jokes and at you. You know what is going to happen when you lend your ears and listen to these comments? You are hurting your mind. STOP.
Listening to criticism and learning from your mistakes is a different ball game. But succumbing to hate and jealousy, will ruin your state of being. Been there, done that.
I would be lying if I say, I don’t spend the night crying my eyes out when a friend dumps me or when someone judges my character. I do. I totally do. But you know what I don’t do? I don’t drag it with me ones the dawn arrives. What happened yesterday, stays yesterday. Today is a chance to renew yourself, and start afresh. What I am saying may sound funny, and totally ridiculous when you are going through the roughest phase of your life. But this helps. Shed all the tears you want to, but the next day you have to move on. The world isn’t going to wait for you to get up on your feet. Each second is an opportunity for you to build your future.
One thing that really get’s me through life is the 5 by 5 Rule.
If it’s not going to matter in 5 years, don’t spend more than 5 minutes upset by it.
The next time you are being pushed to sacrifice your time worrying about something or someone,make your own call. To worry or move on and ahead.
Not caring about things will not make you cold-hearted, but will make you appreciate life more and accept it for what it is. It will prepare you to face the worst and the best.
Take care
From the not so-
Heard of binding forces?
That’s me.
Heard of restoring humanity?
That’s me.
Referred as,
the epitome of selflessness.
Treated as,
the only greatest attribute.
If you have me,
you have it all.
Find the sun in your life,
igniting others.
Who am I to the world?
The whole world.
Who am I to you?
The whole purpose.
I am kindness,
pleased to meet you.
Written as a part of the A to Z challenge, details about which can be read here.
This is the installment to the theme I revealed here.
Kindness is the dire need of the moment. These days being kind is confined within the four walls of facebook, twitter, instagram and snapchat. What about the real world?
Take care
From the not so-
HeyLo,
I’ve been MIA for a while now.
I would be lying if I link this to a deeply depressing writer’s block. Ideas have been rooting in my imagination just as good as any other time.
OKAY. SO. TO THE ACTUAL ~CONTENT~
I wanted to talk about Temporary People. Why do we get close to these people even when we know that they are only a foreground to temporary happiness? Why do we like adding up more and more people to our life, even if it means walking away from old relationships?
They often say that you meet a lot of Temporary People between the age 16-22. But in my opinion bracketing the entries and exits of people in our life to a certain age is a very loose way to frame this topic.
Rather than terming it as “Temporary People”, I view it as (in the vastest sense) “People are Temporary”. There are no claims of the permanence of any entity around us. Which makes me question the hold we have over life. We are constantly challenged with new faces and new situations. The only thing that differentiates us from person to person is our reaction to life.
We meet different kinds of people every day. Some turn out to stand by our side and some remain strangers to our life. But the complexity of life is thrown in when we think about how, The ones who stand by our side now, were once strangers and will most likely go back to being strangers. And the strangers on the other side of the road will most probably find themselves standing beside us one day.
Which brings us to another area of this topic. On what basis do we term people as strangers? The word stranger as described in a dictionary means ‘a person whom one does not know or with whom one is not familiar.’, and yet we only ever associate this word with the vast population that we see on the roads, or at the clubs, or at the theatre, or at school. But have you ever thought about how even your closest friend sitting next to you at school is truly a stranger when calculated deeply enough?
There is no “we have gone back to being strangers” phase. We are all strangers to each other from the day we are born to the day we are dead. As strangers, we sometimes like to get close with other strangers and shed a little bit of our time and life into theirs and walk away.
Yet even with all these realizations embedded in our hearts, we still break down into pieces when someone (who was always meant to leave) leaves us. Why is it that certain people stamp a drastic importance to our life, and still disappear?
So, I went around and asked to some of my friends their take on this topic, and the answers I received were more than enough to justify the fact that we are all strangers to another person’s reality and understanding of life. Few gave me an exuberant response while a few kept it verbally simple. Let’s look at their opinions shall we?
Hmm I think everybody influences us in one way or another and I feel that people who come into our lives even for a very short time tend to teach us something at least, even though we might not notice it they influence us and sometimes teach us the ever minute details of life which we might not have known if they hadn’t stepped in
For example, if you’re a really serious person and very disciplined and don’t take a break from everyday life.. If you meet a very easygoing person they might not influence you to be easygoing but they might make it easier for you to have fun at times and let your hair loose and take a break from life once in a while so it’s for the better for you and maybe you might teach them to be a bit more serious in their lives and maybe even they benefited from you who knows?:)Temporary people may just be as important as permanent people.
I feel people are as temporary as one makes them. But sometimes people leave..maybe because they have to or because they want to.Their absence affects us, shapes us, and influences our behaviour.Isn’t life full of temporary people? Its sad but true. We meet amazing people with beautiful minds but sadly there comes a day when the connections are broken.I guess we meet them because such is life! Pain changes a person and what’s more painful than the ‘temporary’ nature of a personBut at the end, I still believe that…People are as temporary as one makes them~Neha Gupta
First of all, I want to say no one is a so-called FOREVER FRIEND. I don’t believe in that! We meet a lot of temporary people from the age 16-22 everyone knows that. It will hurt so much but this is how we learn in our life and make ourself stronger and dependent! I’ve been hurt, alone, depressed but this is what makes you a stronger person! We can’t always believe or expect a person always to be with us!
So I just don’t expect anything from people. And if so they are gonna leave or hurt I’m ready to face such things!
~Aishwarya
I think every person we meet is a part of our story.
Every person is a little significant to us. They may teach us a lesson, show us the real world, make us realize the type of people around us.~Deepti Prakash
Well…People are meant to pass our life’s, you know..It hurts when they leave.. But it’s just life .~Carolene Siga
It’s all fate.
~Shraddha Khanted
IDK how to put this in words. To be simple they’re >insert beep<
~Arjun
One thing that I could pin down from all these responses is that the effect Temporary people leave on us vary from scar to scar. But maybe it is the “Temporary” characteristic of people that draws us to them. The feeling of the adrenaline rush by guarding something that we will loose excites us.
People are the metaphor of life’s instability. Just like life, people come with no guarantees or warranties.
So, will this stop me (or you) from expecting things from people or prioritizing people? Oh well!
I would like to keep this post alive for as long as I can. Do comment down below, let me know your take on this. This discussion could go on forever!
Take care
From the not so-
HeyLo,
Life is just a series of choices you make. Some may lead to scented gardens and some may lead to rusted corners.
But does regret open the key to the next door?
I have learned it the hard way. When you sit and contemplate about all the choices you have ever made and burn a hole in your heart, cursing yourself for the all the bad decisions, you are just wasting your precious life. I used to be one of those people who can sit for hours together and sulk about life being unfair *hangs head in shame*. But now, I feel revived. I feel my choices offer me life lessons. My choices will set me a clearer path for a wiser tomorrow.
Regretting and holding on to your broken past will not get you anywhere. How long do you think binding yourself to a shattered piece of glass will fetch you comfort? No, masochism isn’t the answer. *gives you the death stare*
Does this mean you need to forget your past?
purrfectgirl 
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